What Price Are You Paying For Leaving Yourself Out?

What price are you paying for leaving yourself out of your life?
Something to think about! Might be a great topic to journal on.

Are you so wrapped up in your life and all the tasks that you are leaving yourself out of your intimate life? If you feel that you are leaving yourself out what will you do today to step in and be all of you? What are the prices and benefits to leaving you out?

If you feel you are playing full out I say wonderful! Are you bringing someone along with you and are they playing full out? What are the prices and benefits for playing full out? What are the prices and benefits to bringing others along with you?

There have been many days that I have found myself so busy with task that I have left all of who I am out of the day. I can get locked into the tasks that I will focus more on that than how I feel or how those around me feel.

I invite you to join with me and do a self check. Where am I today? What am I feeling? Is today a task day? Is today a connection day?

Who will I become today by getting the tasks done?

Who will I become today by making connections today?

What ever you choose is just great! I say be aware of your days and choose your days to serve you. Do not create the space where you are always serving the tasks and not allowing yourself to be served too.

Task Day or Connection Day - What will you choose?

You matter! You deserve a wonderful life!

I say "keep questioning yourself and living up to your legacy because it all matters". You can go to www.bealegacy.com and sign up for our FREE Newsletter "The Buzz" and stay on the questioning path in life.

Be Blessed and Keep Making a Difference!

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When you join the Legacy Mentor Program you will start receiving Daily Legacy Steps, Legacy Tips, Access to all Tele-Classes, Call times for One-On-One's with CEO, Articles and more. Let Be A Legacy support you in continued growth.

Legacy Mentor Program Tele-Class Schedule

October 9, 2008 - Qualities of Leader/Core Values
October 21, 2008 - Prices & Benefits/Consequences
November 13, 2008 - Recovery Time
November 25, 2008 - Self Honoring
December 11, 2008 - Giving/Receiving
December 22, 2008 - Goal Setting "SMARTER" Goals
January 8, 2009 - Visioning
January 20, 2009 - Deserving Money

You will get the opportunity to challenge yourself & reflect on your life up to this point. By taking action steps you can also create your future success. Together we can team up & share information that may enhance your business relationships, personal relationships, relationships with children and future relationships.

$35.00 a month to receive all the benefits of the Legacy Mentor Program. What value will you place on your continued growth? Contact us for payment options or sign up through Paypal and start taking action today on who you will become in 2008. dreamteam@bealegacy.com

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Be A Legacy Mentor Program

Be A Legacy Mentor Program is an opportunity for ongoing coaching and consulting that will keep you moving forward by implementing, holding you accountable and teaching you new ideas every month for your business and personal success. Have someone to fall back on to support you as questions or concerns arise in your business and personal life.

Your monthly membership price of $35 gives you access to the Be A Legacy Monthly Tele-Classes, Monthly Call-In Days (One on One calls with CEO Kimberley Borgens), Monthly Newsletters, Monthly Legacy Tips (Monthly emailed thoughts and questions to ponder on.), Daily Legacy Steps (Daily email that allow you to journal, take action on and create new for your life.), Articles, Email Support and More.

Your membership is $35 a month and you can cancel at anytime. Are you ready to take your business and/or your personal life to the next level? Sign up today to start creating more value in your life. Why wait to take on your life?

Note: Business Consulting and Coaching Clients who sign up for our 8 Week Program receive the Legacy Mentor Program Free for 2 Months. Are you open to become a Consultant/Coaching Client?

It is easy to set up! Contact is at dreamteam@bealegacy.com and we can get you set up with your credit card or Paypal. (Contact us if these payment option will not support you and you are ready to sign up. We are open to working with you!)
This is a Great Gift idea also. Is there someone in your life you would like to gift this monthly program to? We can even send an e-gift for them anonymously.

You will be emailed with advance notice of all Tele-Classes and the Monthly Call-In Days. Put them in your calendar and prepare to get excited in your life.

Monthly Tele-Classes will be published with the time and date. You can join in on the call and listen to topics such as Confidence Building, Goal Setting, Goal Accountability, Competing Commitments, Belief Systems, Qualities & Attributes, Community Involvement and much more. Some of our Tele-Classes may have Special Guests join in and offer new ideas and suggestions.

The Monthly Call-In Day is when CEO Kimberley Borgens sets a day where you can call in any time during the set time frame and ask what you like. You have the opportunity to pick her brain on information from goal setting, speaking, competing commitments, business systems, business consulting and much more that would move your business forward. How about personal family issues such as marriage, raising empowering leaders, trusting your intuition, discipline and consequences. You get to choose what to talk about that would move you and those around you forward in life.

What would hold you back from signing up? What beliefs are you ready to transform?

Ready, Set, Launch :)

Do You Limit Your Power?

The only limits of power are in the boundaries of our beliefs. Our beliefs are the most powerful leading forces that effect our behaviour and leadership. The statement "You change you life when you change your mind" is saying when you shift your beliefs you are likely to shift your life.

Your beliefs either empower you and push you forward or they hold your back in life and take away your power.

What really is a belief and how did we come about them? A belief is something that we accepted to be true or real. Now we may not know for certain that it is true we just believe that it is and therefore we have formed our belief system. We mentally accept that it is true and then carry on in our daily habits that it is true. We build confidence around the belief in the truth as we know it and we can even convince others in our belief as well. We will base our experiences around our beliefs.

Think about some of the beliefs that others have convinced us of because they were confident in their belief. "Men should be at work not at home with the kids." "Women are not reliable CEO's because they should focus on their family." How about this one "Women should not be vice president" or "Black men should not be president". One of those two beliefs is about to shift. One way or another we will have a black president or a woman vice president. What about our traditions? How we celebrate traditions in our family are they conscious or are they a subconscious beliefs. Do you celebrate Thanksgiving the same way your parents did? How about Christmas? Did you adjust to share beliefs with your spouse? Did you create your own traditions? Will your kids do it your way because you tell them this is the way it is to be done?

Today how about assessing your beliefs and ask yourself if your beliefs are from your parents, community, education, religion or your very own. Ask yourself some conscious questions.
Do my beliefs empower me or do they limit me from moving forward?
Do my beliefs support me in risk taking?
Do my beliefs support my family in moving forward?
Do my beliefs allow me to enjoy the work I do?

Now that you have started asking and assessing your beliefs is it time to make a shift in your life? Transform what you once believed to be true to the possibility that you could view your belief a little different. Maybe not so much confidence in the belief yet more confidence in you empowering new possibilities in your life.

The four areas of our lives to create balance in are Physical, Mental, Emotional and Financial. So how are you prepared to transform your life in these areas?

Are you physically fit to manage transformation? Do you exercise regularly? Do you get enough sleep? Do you eat a healthy diet that gives you steady energy?

Are you mentally fit to manage transformation? Do you routinely sharpen your mental skills? Do you learn new things in business and personally? Are you open to new ideas? Do you get involved with discussions in business and in your community?

Are you emotionally fit to manage transformation? Do you continually work on cleaning up the past hurts? Do you get clear with relationships that you still have energy with? Do you heal the wounds of your past where you felt hurt? Do you let negative remarks beat you down or do you let them be feedback and look to see if it would serve you to make a shift or not.

Are you financially fit to manage transformation? Are you living paycheck to paycheck or above your means? Are you enjoying your job or business or do you dread going to work everyday? Could shifting how you look at work improve your paycheck? Do you have money in savings? Are you tithing?

Transforming your consciousness around your beliefs is the first step to making shifts in your life. When you focus on your belief "Shift Happens"!

Are you ready to make some shifts?

(Note: The word Transformation creates a sense of moving forward and excitement in life. The word Change creates a sense or hard, dread and resistance.)

Are you ready to transform your beliefs and use your power in making choices that will move you forward?

Am I Comparing Myself Fairly?

Do I compare myself fairly with others? I find I am frequently comparing myself to others. Not smart enough, not skinny enough, not strong enough, not talented enough, not relaxing enough, not disciplined enough, not brave enough and so on and so on!

Are you caught in this cycle of Not Enough? I am successful and powerful! I have accomplished many things in life as well as many lessons. I have moved up in business and have some wonderful personal relationships. Yet I still sometimes go to the not enough thoughts.

The question I would put out is this "What scale are you measuring yourself on?". Are you comparing yourself to a hope of perfection? Are your successes rarely enjoyed? Do you constantly have the drive that you must do or be better? Do you see something that you did not do well as a failure and then focus on that?

If I have given 100 percent of my skill and knowledge to a project and when it is complete I look back and see where I could have done things differently how do I treat myself? I can look back and decide that the job I did was only 97% worth and the 3% is what I would focus on as not enough.

Have I allowed the influence of others to determine who I am or "should" be? Have I allowed my parents limited skill, my family, spouse, community and culture define who I am?
Am I allowing things I heard in my youth and interpreted in my youth create a negative effect on me now in my adulthood? How are you doing in this area?

Now is the time to start comparing myself fairly! The next time we get in the mood to compare lets stop and see what scale we are using. When you are feeling like you are not enough ask what scale are you using. The perfection scale that does not really exist?

Start listing your achievements and compare them to others who are the same age, gender, social background and culture. Are you comparing your physical beauty to someone else that does not live in your body or your life style? Write down the differences. Notice the similarities and differences for yourself. Notice the negative comparisons you place on yourself and how much energy you put on worrying about them. If you were to release that energy and put it somewhere more productive where would you put it? In your relationships with your spouse, kids, friends or at work, your business? How about positively on yourself? How do you hold back the real you from playing full out because you do not see yourself as enough?

Some things to think about and journal on could be:
• Is it possible to accept myself and treat myself in a lovingly and compassionately, regardless of my accomplishments or lack of accomplishments?
• When did I decide I was not enough and why?
• Do I need to be outstanding, special or unique?
• Am I looking to prove something? And if so who?
• Why does failing at something transform me into being a failure?
• What would my life be like with a fair comparison?
• Can I be satisfied with progress, not perfection?

Final thought: Did you know that the composer Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart by th age of 12 was more successful by any standard in music composition. Mozart spoke 15 languages and had composed numerous major pieces of music, including an opera. He was still a child! I would not want to compare myself to that!

How Coachable Am I?

Considering a business or personal coach?
The first question for you to ask yourself is. . . "How Coachable Am I?"
Are you really ready to ask this question of yourself?
Do you wonder how receptive you might be to coaching?

If you 're open and available to coaching you can be relied upon to take coaching seriously.
To be coachable you will believe this is the right time to accept coaching.
You tell the truth to yourself and are willing to challenge your self-defeating beliefs.
Being coachable means you are willing to do the work and let the coach do the coaching.
People who are coachable keep their word without struggling or sabotaging.
Coachable people experiment new ideas that the coach chooses for me.
A person who is coachable can express what they need or expect.
Sees coaching as a worthwhile investment in their life.
Is humble enough to share the credit for their success with the coach.

Knowing all of this are you "Coachable"?

The bonus is you can learn to be more coachable as you are being coached. Do not be alarmed and think you are not coachable if you do not see yourself in all of the statements above. As you allow yourself to be coached you will gain more ability to be receptive and open to coaching.

The greatest gift we can give ourselves is to allow ourselves to learn more about what challenges us and take action to be better at those challenges. Having a coach can support you with what challenges you. Allowing yourself to see through the eyes of someone who may see your challenge as a success tool for you.

Find a coach who will support you, hold you accountable and wants you to be a success. The best coach is a coach who has shown success in their life and business. Somene who walks the talk. Research and ask questions about the coach you are looking to hire. Then make a decision that would serve you in reaching your goals and dreams.

Contact Be A Legacy to see the successes they have had in business, personal relationships and their community.

September Legacy Foundation Day

Septembers Legacy Foundation Recipeint is the Women's Center of San Joaquin County.

Be A Legacy creates awareness with Legacy Foundation Day.

Legacy Foundation Day is an opportunity for you to receive a 30 minute coaching session for free. In turn, we ask you to make a contribution of $30.00 (or more, it's up to you) to the cause, organization, or individual we've chosen each month that we support because they are also making a huge difference in the world.
We choose to model how simple it is to walk the talk, take a stand, and do something for another. And we invite you to join us.

Here's how it works.
• Every month we'll highlight on our blog the month's charitable focus.
• You complete the 'Give to Receive' form on the Be A Legacy website to request your 30-minute coaching session.
• After receiving your form, you will be contacted by one of our Be A Legacy coaches to schedule your session.
• Your session must be scheduled within one week of your request.• After the session, please make your donation. Simple honor system applies.

Here is some information on the Women's Center:

For more than three decades, the Women's Center has been the lifeline to help and hope for thousands of women, children, and men in San Joaquin County, and now reaches over 30,000 individuals each year. The Center is the sole certified provider of services for victims of domestic violence and sexual assault in San Joaquin County, and operates the only undisclosed emergency shelters for battered women and their children.

The agency also provides prevention education and community outreach to numerous local schools, businesses and organizations, to prevent more people from becoming victims and to help stop the violence.

The Women's Center is driven by its mission to provide a wide range of supportive, educational and crisis intervention services to victims of domestic violence and sexual assault, enabling them to regain control of their lives.

Mission
To provide a wide range of supportive, educational, and crisis intervention services to victims of domestic violence and sexual assault, enabling them to regain control of their lives.

Vision
The founding and continued vision of the Women’s Center of San Joaquin County includes:
A community where women can share ideas and feelings, examine their role in society, and learn to bring about change.
An environment conducive to growth and self-empowerment where women can teach and learn skills important for dealing with a changing world, and further community cross-cultural understanding.
A forum where women’s issues and concerns can be brought before the public.
A place where women, men , and children in need can find supportive services.
A catalyst for change pursuing societal goals of equity and self worth, working to insure the provision of quality services, community education, and new programs for women and children.

Goals
The Women's Center's goals are to serve and empower victims, raise awareness about domestic violence and sexual assault, dispel myths and misconceptions, and reduce violence in our communities. Ultimately, our goal is to eliminate domestic violence and sexual assault, but we work to ensure that our services are available as long as there is a need.

Mentoring Yourself

Mentoring yourself is another great tool. Do you know that it doesn't really matter how others see you as much as it matters how you see yourself?

Other people might be able to look at you and share that they can see your greatnesses. They can truly believe that you are compassionate, powerful, courageous and more. The challenge arises when you do not believe these qualities for yourself. Letting go of many opportunities because you say to yourself "they are not talking to me" or "I will let you know if I see anyone like the customer you are looking for". Are you looking inside yourself to see it that opportunity is for you?

What qualities are you going to commit to awakening every moment?
If you are not willing to acknowledge your qualities then you are not likely going to achieve your potential in life. Making it almost impossible to achieve your goals and dreams. Today is the day to mentor yourself. Mentor your old beliefs and transform them into a powerful voice inside of you that serves you moving forward. Awakening a quality to serve you and practice everyday until you are transformed into believing in it.

How are you going to mentor yourself so you are coming out a winner everyday?

Mentoring yourself takes effort and consistency. Your ability to do this begins and ends with your mentality. Your mind set is to be about serving your purpose and moving forward in life. What will you choose to tell yourself everyday? If you have negative self talk then notice that it is not moving you forward. Putting away the hammer and choosing to take action to mentor you can shift future generations.

As you mentor yourself you create space to mentor others. When you enjoy you then people enjoy being around you. Every contact with another human is an opportunity for a "Mentor Moment". How many "Mentor Moments" are you going to create today?

Mentee -Are you willing to ask for a Mentor?

Who is a mentee? A mentee is a person that wants to further his/her career and/or social development. Signs that the person wants to progress are statements/questions such as: "I would like to make more friends.", "My teachers thinks that I can get better grades.", "I would like to get a better job.", "How can I get a promotion?", "How do I get on the basketball team?", "I want to go to college.", "I would like a better relationship with my kids or spouse. "
"I'd like to make more money in my network markting business. What do I have to do to make it happen?"

It is very difficult to help someone who does not see the need for help. You can suggest to someone that he/she can do better in a particular area, but the individual must appreciate and accept the need for change. They must see the value in creating a shift.

Mentees must have trust and respect for the mentor. Mentees must realize that the success of the relationship is up to them and they are responsible for the actions they take. Mentee's must take responsibility for their own development. Finally, the mentee must value the role of a mentor in achieving these objectives.

Maintaining the Mentoring Relationship with the Mentee

A key element in maintaining a good working relationship with your mentee is to ensure that he / she is responsible for his / her own development. The mentor can coax, persuade, cajole but must never coerce the mentee.

Honestly is always the best policy. Some things may have to be coated with some sugar and honey to sweeten them up, but never compromise the truth.

Being a mentor is a rewarding responsibility. Take your mentoring responsibilities seriously, and insist the mentee do likewise.

Do not hesitate to invite others to get involved in the mentoring relationship if you feel that it is in the best interests of the mentee. This step can be difficult for the mentor to take because it may admit to some weakness on his / her part. However, realizing when others can do a better job bringing is a hallmark of maturity.

Focus on the big picture and don’t worry about small things. Substance is important, style less so. Each person is unique, and the mentee’s individual style may need to be modified, but not suppressed.

The mentor should not look for immediate gratification in the mentoring relationship. The value of the lessons learned from the mentor may not become apparent to the mentee for months or even years later.

Mentoring -Are you willing to be a Mentor?

Mentoring is the art of helping others to develop their talents, aptitudes, and interpersonal skills and to reach their full human potential. Mentoring can take place in many settings, on the job, in school or college, in a club, within the community, in a social setting, and within a family.
A mentor is someone who resembles your vision of yourself in the future in some area. In common language, the person doing the helping is called the "mentor", while the person being helped is called the "mentee". However, this language hides the fact that mentoring is a mutually beneficial relationship - both mentor and mentee gain from their interaction. The characteristic of an effective mentor is that he/she is trusted and respected by the mentee.
Trust and respect create the foundation for open communication that is essential to a successful mentoring relationship.Other important characteristics of an effective mentor are:Self-awareness, knowing your own strengths and weaknesses.
Communication skills - a willingness to listen and an ability to communicate with the mentee.Openness to new ideas - Having a willingness to learn as well as teach.Patience. Perseverance. Honesty. Integrity. Commitment.A sense of fairness - observing & communicating both the positive & negative in a situation. Sensitivity to the mentee's strengths and weaknesses, intellectual and emotional development. An ability and willingness to work with the mentee on his/her challenges and needs.
For mentoring in work situations, the mentor may require technical knowledge (how to get the job done). This requirement will vary from need and requirement. In some instances it may be necessary for the mentor to teach skills to the mentee. If this is the situation, then the mentor must have the technical knowledge and the ability to communicate with the skills needed. In other circumstances, it may be sufficient for the mentor to know where and/or how the technical knowledge can be obtained.

Tip - This list of characteristics may seem to exclude many people from being a mentor. Not so! Awareness of the characteristics is more important than possessing them at the beginning of a mentoring relationship. Mentors can (and most probably will!) develop many characteristics while working with one or more mentees. We are all learning in life.

Establishing a Mentoring Relationship
Now that we have an individual who wants to grow as a person (mentee), and have selected a suitable mentor, (or mentors) the next stage is to establish a mentoring relationship.

While the mentoring relationship is an informal one, it is best to give it some structure.
There are three basic questions:
Where are we going, what is the desired goal?
Where are we now?
What do we need to do to get to the desired goal?

The mentor is best to lead a discussion with the mentee along the following lines:
What are the mentee’s desired goals?
What is the current situation?
What steps must the mentee take to reach his/her desired goal?
What resources for the goal are available to the mentee and mentor?
What resources need to be obtained from elsewhere?

Resources to be a better mentor include:
The mentor, Other mentors, Training Courses
The mentee (skills and aptitudes are identified through the personal profile).
Skilled professionals such as teachers, doctor and nurses.
Schools, colleges, universities, books, video and cassettes.
Parents, other relatives, colleagues, libraries and museums.
Government, government agencies, not-for-profit organizations, pastors, counselors & friends.