Commitment verses Compliance

Have you ever been in a place where you had to do a job that you really did not want to do? The price for not doing the job was too great so you just did it? Did you do that job because you were committed to getting that particular task done? Or did you do the task to avoid a negative consequence? Did you get the task done out of compliance? Or commitment? Many times people will make comments like "I had to to that or I might lose my job". Or maybe something like "If I didn't do blank then my spouse would be mad at me". Those are both statements out of compliance. Getting others to to what you want them to do where both side feel like they won is coming from a place of commitment.

Commitment usually comes from a place of enrolling someone to do something because they know the reward in the end is worth it.

Compliance usually comes from a place of a threat or fear of losing something and it may get done and someone feels they paid a big price.

Where do you feel like you come from commitment or compliant?

When you are asked to do something do you feel like you have a choice in doing the task? Do you feel like you are winning it what you are doing? Do you feel like both sides are winning? In a marriage do you compromise so both sides win? Do you do things that you might not do for the average person just because you are married?

If you can answer yes to these questions then know that this is the place where commitment comes from.
If your answer is no then you will want to look to see where you are being compliant.

When you are coming from a place of compliance you may feel like you are a victim or uncared about. You may feel alone or that it doen't matter anyway the Eeyore syndrome. Many people will come from compliance because they may not know how to say no. (See upcoming blog for how to say no.)

When you are coming from a place of commitment you may feel satisfied and like you have a say in the choice you made. You may feel as part of the team and that what you hve to say does matter.

Notice when you are coming from compliance or commitment. Which will serve you best?