Be A Legacy Networking Tip #6

Compare Yourself Fairly

Are you comparing yourself fairly against other?

Do not expect your business to be the same as someone who has spent more successful hours in their business. Those are the people we strive to become. We will not become the big, heavy hitter in our company without putting in the productive time and efforts. If you are new to your industry, you cannot expect to have the same success as someone who has been consistently growing their business for five years. This is like comparing apples to oranges.

If you are looking for the quick fix I would suggest working for someone else. If you are determined to be a business owner then put quality business building hours into your business!

Sure, it would be nice to land a big account or person so motivated they bring in 100 people with them in business, but don't get caught up in the hype and emotion. It takes work to build your business and to keep from being discouraged compare your hours and time and talents fairly.

Keep striving for better and quicker ways to build success. Duplicate success! Follow the Leaders before you! You may be able to reach the same success that others have in less time than it took them. It still will take the time and energy that you put in to make it happen.

Check to see if you are Comparing yourself fairly in life. Ask yourself "What scale are you measuring yourself on?". Are you comparing yourself to a hope of perfection? Are your successes rarely enjoyed? Do you constantly have the drive that you must do or be better? Do you see something that you did not do well as a failure and then focus on that?

If you have given 100 percent of your skill and knowledge to a project and when it is complete look back and see where you could have done things differently how do you treat yourself? you could look back and decide that you did a great job that was 97% worthy and the 3% is what you would focus on as not enough. Put your merit up against yourself only.

Start listing your achievements and compare them to others who are the same age, gender, social background and culture. Are you comparing your physical beauty to someone else that does not live in your body or your life style?

Write down the differences. Notice the similarities and differences for yourself. Notice the negative comparisons you place on yourself and how much energy you put on worrying about them. If you were to release that energy and put it somewhere more productive where would you put it?

In your relationships with your spouse, kids, friends or at work, your business? How about positively on yourself? How do you hold back the real you from playing full out because you do not see yourself as enough?

Some things to think about and journal on could be:

• Is it possible to accept myself and treat myself in a lovingly and compassionately, regardless of my accomplishments or lack of accomplishments?
• Do I need to be outstanding, special or unique?
• Am I looking to prove something? And if so who?
• Why does failing at something transform me into being a failure?
• What would my life be like with a fair comparison?
• Can I be satisfied with progress, not perfection?

Final thought: Did you know that the composer Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart by th age of 12 was more successful by any standard in music composition. Mozart spoke 15 languages and had composed numerous major pieces of music, including an opera. He was still a child! I would not want to compare myself to that!