Have You Ever Lost Your Confidence?

Has there been a time in your life where you had things moving right along and you felt content with your life and business? While everything was going along smoothly you became a little relaxed and just went along with what was happening around you? I can say that I have been at that place many times in my personal and business life. Everything seemed to be moving forward, things felt like they were in a good place and I was comfortable in what was going on around me.

Then whack out of the blue something happens. Your clients file bankruptcy, you are fired from a job, a terminal illness is discovered in a family member, a sudden death of a loved one, divorce, rape or sexual assault occurs. You get knocked off your confidence. Suddenly the calm comfortable world you had been living in takes a turn for the worse. There does not feel like a quick ending to what just happened. You may have found yourself paralyzed from what had just happened.

When you get your confidence kicked out of you by life what do you do to bring it back? How long does it take you to breathe back in some wind after it is knocked out of you?

I have experienced many breath taking kicks along the way. I have experienced many confident damaging events in my life and yet I have found the tools necessary to get back up and breathe. Have you experienced events in your life that have knocked out the confidence for a short or long while? What were some of those events for you? Are you in one of those times right now?

I have found that when I have gotten in one of these circumstances at first I freeze. I go inward and want to shut out the whole world. I will get the necessary obligations done but have no feeling attached to what I am doing. While I am in this state I am searching in my brain what I could have done different and what I could have done to prevent this circumstances from happening. Anyone else out there like me? Get stuck in the “what I could have, should have done”! Not like I can do anything about the past however I know this is what I have done. This usually will get me into a cycle of blame shame and guilt for what I didn’t do so well. After a time, I have to find myself out of that hole and start to rebuild my confidence. This is done a lot quicker when I talk with those people I have as my support. When a hand is reached out to me I take it and get myself going a lot faster than if I were to try to do it alone.

I have heard from many people whom have shared that I inspire them and they look up to me. People have made comments about my positive attitude and my confidence. I appreciate each and every reminder from those around me. I feel like I am no different from any other person who gets back up when they have been knocked down. I work consistently to get back up on the horse that bucked me off and take the reins and ride again. I have never gone it alone even when I have felt alone. There has always been someone in my life, be it God, parents, spouse, siblings, friends, children and even strangers. Someone has reminded me to get up and get going. Who has been in your life that has kept you going when it has been difficult?

Here are a few tips I have learned along the way:

1. Keep Breathing – It takes a lot of deep cleansing breaths to get through the biggest challenges.

2. Notice What Happened - Do what you can to notice and not avoid what has happened in your life. Be aware of what you were doing and how you reacted. This helps to put it all into perspective.

3. Check Your Feelings – What are you feeling about the circumstance? For yourself and for any others that may be involved. Be honest about your feeling do not try to hide them or bury them.

4. Ask What You Can Control – What about this situation can you control? Then take action on those things. If you cannot control it then let the negative energy go from it. Do what you can and keep yourself moving forward.

5. Rebuild Your Confidence - Take every step possible to get confident again. Be with positive people, talk about your strengths, surround yourself with the good things in life, do something that inspires you or do something that scares you so you can get the excitement back in your life.

Your confidence is always there! It just may be hiding behind a tree waiting to see how you protect it. It may be afraid to come out and play again however you are the only one who can teach it to play again. Those things that knocked you down are the same things that have knocked down thousands of other people in the world. You are not alone! Ask yourself how they may have gotten through it or get in a group with others who have survived the same circumstance and learn to thrive through it.

When you get through those challenges you end up being a person that inspires others. People will see you as the person they want to be like.

Come on you can do it, I believe in you! Bring your confidence back out and play. Be like the person you admire most and learn from your circumstance so you can help someone else get up quicker too.

Network Marketing - Question Asked

A question that was asked was:
What positive experiences have you had with network marketing?

My Answer:
I have been in and have work with many business owners in network marketing. I have coach and watched some people move their network marketing up 1 to 4 levels in a six month period of time. There are great benefits to a network marketing business. Your time line, your health, confidence building, sales building and much more.

Here are some of the qualities and attributes I have found with some of the most successful in the industry.

Commitment - Staying committed to what you signed into. Even when it gets difficult. Staying with it as you continue to learn about yourself. There will be times when you get frustrated. Just like any business you do what it takes.

Passion - Being passionate about your product will show in all you do. When you are sharing and inviting others to join your business or buying your products your passion will be what they buy into first.

Business Minded - This is a business not a hobby! If you treat network marketing as a business and you seek business support you are more likely to be successful. Run your time and your calendar as you would any business.

Follow Through - If you agree to something then follow through! Do what you say you will do. If something comes up renegotiate the agreement do not just take the other party for granted. People will usually forgive and yet not forget. You set the integrity of your own business by what you do. A great staement is to Under Promise & Over Deliver!

Courage - Having the courage to run a business and take many "No's" is the key to having a healthy business. Remembering that people are not saying "No" to YOU they are saying "No" to the opportunity. Do not take the "No's" personally. Say thank you and let them know you are there when they change their mind.

Follow Up - When you get leads follow up on them. Do not just leave a message and expect them to call you back. A message is not a contact! Call back using a different approach. Change your personality and be excited, direct or gentle. If it takes 4 calls then so be it. Use a different personality style on each call and you are likely going to connect with them one way or the other. Do follow up's a week apart as someone may be out of town for a week. ALWAYS Follow Up.

Most of the network marketing companies I have worked with have people who are very successful and people who are just in it to socialize. Ask yourself which you are. If your are looking for success, listen to your upline, utilize the systems they have already created for you and stay focused on what you want to create in your business. (By the way sometimes an up line is not going anywhere. If this is the case ask others for support even if they are not directly above you. The great ones will help or offer another to support you.)

Be willing to ask for support! Networking is a two sided affair. You can offer support and you must be willing to receive support as well. Be involved with your team and remember there is enough for everyone. There are billions of people on this planet.

Have fun and enjoy your Network Marketing or Direct Sales Business!

Mentoring Yourself

Mentoring yourself is another great tool. Do you know that it doesn't really matter how others see you as much as it matters how you see yourself?

Other people might be able to look at you and share that they can see your greatnesses. They can truly believe that you are compassionate, powerful, courageous and more. The challenge arises when you do not believe these qualities for yourself. Letting go of many opportunities because you say to yourself "they are not talking to me" or "I will let you know if I see anyone like the customer you are looking for". Are you looking inside yourself to see it that opportunity is for you?

What qualities are you going to commit to awakening every moment?
If you are not willing to acknowledge your qualities then you are not likely going to achieve your potential in life. Making it almost impossible to achieve your goals and dreams. Today is the day to mentor yourself. Mentor your old beliefs and transform them into a powerful voice inside of you that serves you moving forward. Awakening a quality to serve you and practice everyday until you are transformed into believing in it.

How are you going to mentor yourself so you are coming out a winner everyday?

Mentoring yourself takes effort and consistency. Your ability to do this begins and ends with your mentality. Your mind set is to be about serving your purpose and moving forward in life. What will you choose to tell yourself everyday? If you have negative self talk then notice that it is not moving you forward. Putting away the hammer and choosing to take action to mentor you can shift future generations.

As you mentor yourself you create space to mentor others. When you enjoy you then people enjoy being around you. Every contact with another human is an opportunity for a "Mentor Moment". How many "Mentor Moments" are you going to create today?