Thanksgiving is upon us here in the US. We get together and celebrate with family and friends. We come together to be thankful for what it is that we do have in our lives.
What do you have to be thankful for? How far have you come this year?
What I have discovered for me throughout the years is when I focus on what I have that is working in my life and fills me with joy, that is what my life reflects.
Someone recently said "You only write about good stuff on all your posts. Is that really how your life is or are you like a duck that looks good on top of the water but is really struggling under the water?"
I thought about her comment and discovered for myself that I really do have a lot of wonderful things that happen in my life. These are brought forth by how I make choices in my life. I also noticed that I have bad circumstances just like everyone else. I just do not give them the power to bring my life down. I get back up and keep moving forward.
I make conscious choices each day to look for what good can come out of the circumstances. I look equally for the good in people, places and all challenges.
It doesn't cost me anything extra in life to offer a smile, give someone some hope or care about people and their success.
As you celebrate thanksgiving this month (& every month) my hope is that you will find what is good in your life and keep your focus on that. What you focus on is what you usually will create in your life. If you are looking for evidence of how bad others are you will find it. If you look for evidence of the greatness in others you will find it! What evidence are you looking for?
What are you thankful for? Who are you thankful for?
I am thankful for your contact, friendship, feedback and support to keep Be A Legacy moving along side of you.
PS. ~ I decided I am much more like the Swan. Bigger feet creates less paddling as I continue to glide in life. Letting the tough things in life roll down the feathers allowing the elegance to be seen and admired.
Showing posts with label choices. Show all posts
Showing posts with label choices. Show all posts
Tuesday, November 24, 2009
Sunday, November 1, 2009
Design Your Ideal Life
Are you designing your ideal life?
Believe it or not you have a clean slate everyday to design the life that you want. Each day you get to choose what you will do and how you will respond to the choices around you. You can invent your life any way you choose. How you do it will be up to you.
Start designing your life by choice. Here are some questions to get you thinking and get you writing about your ideal life. Answer these questions with great detail. Describe each idea using your senses. Visualize the colors, sounds, smells and anything that can get you excited about your ideal life.
• How do you see yourself every day?
• Who do you want to be?
• Who do your spend your time with?
• Who would you like to spend your time with?
• What does an average day look like for you?
• What would you like your average days to look like?
• What do you do for fun?
• What would you like to do for fun?
• What do you do for income?
• What would you like to be doing for income?
• Where do you live?
• Where would you like to live and why there?
This does not have to be difficult. If it feels hard to visualize a long distance just visualize your ideal life for one day. What can you do tomorrow to make your life better than today? Take designing your ideal life in small steps. It took small steps to get you where you are today so pace yourself in your designing. After you get the hang of your ideal day then move to an ideal week and then month and so on. Once you have designed what your ideal day, week, month, year or life looks like then start taking steps to put it all into action. Start making the small steps and planning to live your ideal life.
We do not have to out do someone else's life. We only have to live up to our life! This is Your ideal life. You can decide how you live it, who you live it with and what is important to you.
Design your life with your loved ones supporting you and bring together the people in your life who are willing to help you reach your ideal design. What are you waiting for? Go have fun designing your life and your legacy.
Believe it or not you have a clean slate everyday to design the life that you want. Each day you get to choose what you will do and how you will respond to the choices around you. You can invent your life any way you choose. How you do it will be up to you.
Start designing your life by choice. Here are some questions to get you thinking and get you writing about your ideal life. Answer these questions with great detail. Describe each idea using your senses. Visualize the colors, sounds, smells and anything that can get you excited about your ideal life.
• How do you see yourself every day?
• Who do you want to be?
• Who do your spend your time with?
• Who would you like to spend your time with?
• What does an average day look like for you?
• What would you like your average days to look like?
• What do you do for fun?
• What would you like to do for fun?
• What do you do for income?
• What would you like to be doing for income?
• Where do you live?
• Where would you like to live and why there?
This does not have to be difficult. If it feels hard to visualize a long distance just visualize your ideal life for one day. What can you do tomorrow to make your life better than today? Take designing your ideal life in small steps. It took small steps to get you where you are today so pace yourself in your designing. After you get the hang of your ideal day then move to an ideal week and then month and so on. Once you have designed what your ideal day, week, month, year or life looks like then start taking steps to put it all into action. Start making the small steps and planning to live your ideal life.
We do not have to out do someone else's life. We only have to live up to our life! This is Your ideal life. You can decide how you live it, who you live it with and what is important to you.
Design your life with your loved ones supporting you and bring together the people in your life who are willing to help you reach your ideal design. What are you waiting for? Go have fun designing your life and your legacy.
Wednesday, September 2, 2009
Who Is Making Your Choices?
Every morning I get up and I am ready to jump into action. I get up and go about making today a better day than yesterday. I am not saying that it is always easy to look at life this way. I am saying that everyday I have a choice on how I want to look at the world. I choose everyday to make it better.
After being in business for over 16 years I have seen a lot of challenges. We have been through just about everything negative a business can go through. In one of my companies I recall when we sold it to a Fortune 500 company and then worked as local managers for them. Within one year they went bankrupt and we were faced with a choice. The choice of letting go and moving on without doing that work anymore or taking back our company in which we were not completely paid for. We made the choice to keep it and boy did we learn a lot from that. Ten years later we are still going in that business. Oh but be clear there have been some difficult choices in those ten years. Just this spring within a two month period we had a couple clients file bankruptcy. Between them, they owed us over $100,000.00. Because we are a service industry there is no product to take back, this was all for payroll that employees must be paid. We had a choice to say should we close the doors or what can we do different? Well, we are still doing different. Batten down the hatches and hold on tight!
Our lives are made up of many choices. Choices to change course, to let go, to hold on and leave the thoughts of failure behind! What are your choices? Can you enjoy your choices even when things get tough?
Who are the people that you bring into your life to help you get through it? Are you bringing problem solvers or problem makers into your life?
Do you have people who you can brainstorm with? Are there friends, family members or co-workers who are willing to remind you why you do what you do?
Who do you have that helps you set and achieve goals? Hold you accountable to what you say you want to achieve?
I would challenge you to make a list of all the people in your life you consider close to you. Next to their name put either the letters E & D. E is for the people who bring you energy and lift you up. D is for the people who are more often draining the energy from you. Then look to see who you spend the most time with. Do you want to shift where you spend your time? You do not have to do anything different! As long as you are aware of it you can make the choice to stay the same or do something different.
If you catch yourself in a rut, evaluate what is going on and ask what can I improve in this situation? Find the solutions to lift yourself up. I live with an attitude of today will be better than tomorrow. Here are a few of the attitudes that I choose in my life most.
Excellent Attitudes of Choice:
1. An Attitude of Solution.
Finding a solution to what is going on and not becoming a victim to it. If I am low on cash I find a solution to bring more money into my life. Ask myself what can I do to bring in more money. So what ever you are facing get support from people who can help you find solution.
2. An Attitude of Productivity.
There is a difference between busy work and productive work. I can look busy all the time! I am productive when I have the attitude of creating a forward moving result. Cleaning the house when I know my business is not producing would not be a smart choice for me. I can hire a house keeper when the money is flowing in. I can delegate some of the non essentials to others who love to do that and have a business for it. This leaves me the time and energy to be productive and do what I love to do. When you slack at your job or business it says that you have a habit of slacking. You are likely to get a slack pay for your job. Do your job with excellence and you will be rewarded. It may not be rewarded from the same place however.
3. An Attitude of Optimism.
You may not be able to choose all the circumstance in your life, you do have the choice on how you handle them. Refuse to be defeated by the circumstances. Look for that silver lining. What can I learn from this? How can I teach others to get through this? Instead of a “why me” choose a “why not me” attitude. Find something good in all your doing and hand on tight. You never know when this lesson will be pulled up to help someone else along the way. As a survivor of a rape, at the time did not see any benefit in it! Now I am grateful to be able to truly understand where a survivor comes from and can help them get through it too.
4. An Attitude of Improvement.
Look for ways to continuously improve your life. Find ways to make your life or the life of someone else better today than yesterday. No one ever said life would be easy! I have found that it is easier when I find ways to improve my relationships, improve my business, improve the knowledge of my kids and improve my attitude. If I were to stay the same as I was 20 years ago I would not be worth much to the people around me and yet at the same time I know that I must change me because no one else can change me and I can not change them either. What could you improve in your life today? Take baby steps and improve a little at a time.
Remember, you have the choice to do what you want in life. Not all choices are easy and not all choices are hard. Keep moving forward and know that there are people in the world looking to help you along the way. Go find those people and allow them to keep you energetic and you will be able to return the favor.
After being in business for over 16 years I have seen a lot of challenges. We have been through just about everything negative a business can go through. In one of my companies I recall when we sold it to a Fortune 500 company and then worked as local managers for them. Within one year they went bankrupt and we were faced with a choice. The choice of letting go and moving on without doing that work anymore or taking back our company in which we were not completely paid for. We made the choice to keep it and boy did we learn a lot from that. Ten years later we are still going in that business. Oh but be clear there have been some difficult choices in those ten years. Just this spring within a two month period we had a couple clients file bankruptcy. Between them, they owed us over $100,000.00. Because we are a service industry there is no product to take back, this was all for payroll that employees must be paid. We had a choice to say should we close the doors or what can we do different? Well, we are still doing different. Batten down the hatches and hold on tight!
Our lives are made up of many choices. Choices to change course, to let go, to hold on and leave the thoughts of failure behind! What are your choices? Can you enjoy your choices even when things get tough?
Who are the people that you bring into your life to help you get through it? Are you bringing problem solvers or problem makers into your life?
Do you have people who you can brainstorm with? Are there friends, family members or co-workers who are willing to remind you why you do what you do?
Who do you have that helps you set and achieve goals? Hold you accountable to what you say you want to achieve?
I would challenge you to make a list of all the people in your life you consider close to you. Next to their name put either the letters E & D. E is for the people who bring you energy and lift you up. D is for the people who are more often draining the energy from you. Then look to see who you spend the most time with. Do you want to shift where you spend your time? You do not have to do anything different! As long as you are aware of it you can make the choice to stay the same or do something different.
If you catch yourself in a rut, evaluate what is going on and ask what can I improve in this situation? Find the solutions to lift yourself up. I live with an attitude of today will be better than tomorrow. Here are a few of the attitudes that I choose in my life most.
Excellent Attitudes of Choice:
1. An Attitude of Solution.
Finding a solution to what is going on and not becoming a victim to it. If I am low on cash I find a solution to bring more money into my life. Ask myself what can I do to bring in more money. So what ever you are facing get support from people who can help you find solution.
2. An Attitude of Productivity.
There is a difference between busy work and productive work. I can look busy all the time! I am productive when I have the attitude of creating a forward moving result. Cleaning the house when I know my business is not producing would not be a smart choice for me. I can hire a house keeper when the money is flowing in. I can delegate some of the non essentials to others who love to do that and have a business for it. This leaves me the time and energy to be productive and do what I love to do. When you slack at your job or business it says that you have a habit of slacking. You are likely to get a slack pay for your job. Do your job with excellence and you will be rewarded. It may not be rewarded from the same place however.
3. An Attitude of Optimism.
You may not be able to choose all the circumstance in your life, you do have the choice on how you handle them. Refuse to be defeated by the circumstances. Look for that silver lining. What can I learn from this? How can I teach others to get through this? Instead of a “why me” choose a “why not me” attitude. Find something good in all your doing and hand on tight. You never know when this lesson will be pulled up to help someone else along the way. As a survivor of a rape, at the time did not see any benefit in it! Now I am grateful to be able to truly understand where a survivor comes from and can help them get through it too.
4. An Attitude of Improvement.
Look for ways to continuously improve your life. Find ways to make your life or the life of someone else better today than yesterday. No one ever said life would be easy! I have found that it is easier when I find ways to improve my relationships, improve my business, improve the knowledge of my kids and improve my attitude. If I were to stay the same as I was 20 years ago I would not be worth much to the people around me and yet at the same time I know that I must change me because no one else can change me and I can not change them either. What could you improve in your life today? Take baby steps and improve a little at a time.
Remember, you have the choice to do what you want in life. Not all choices are easy and not all choices are hard. Keep moving forward and know that there are people in the world looking to help you along the way. Go find those people and allow them to keep you energetic and you will be able to return the favor.
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