Be A Legacy Networking Tip #4

Emulate A Leader

Take time and think of someone who is successful in your field. Or in the field you are passionate about being in.

• Who is that person?
• What do you admire or respect about them?
• Why they are important to you?
• What makes them stand out to you?
• What can I learn from them?

They can mentor you with out ever meeting you! Look at what you feel makes them a leader in the field or industry. How can you do some of the things that they do? How can you get educated like them?

When the challenges arise in your business, and they will, you can ask yourself, "What would he/she do, well why don't I just do that?" And then just do it!

Even if you have never personally met them you can see how they get involved, what they do well or what mistakes they have made and course correct yourself as needed.

You can have several people that you admire and respect that you choose to take bits and pieces and make your life much more productive.

Look in all the areas of your life to find people to mentor you. I have chosen people in my walk of faith, industry, relationships and child rearing. This has been a great tool for me to get better in all areas of my life.

Know that people may be watching you as their mentor! How are you living your life? How can you live in a way that people will do what is great in you?

Setting Goals Is Easy! Or Is It?

Setting goals is the easy step. People set them all the time. Many people set goals for a New Years resolutions. Setting goals, putting goals on paper, saying you will reach a particular goal does not mean you will succeed. Setting goals can be a lot like a hope, a wish and a want.

Acting on the goal is different than setting the goal. Acting on the goal requires you to do something about the goal. Putting goal accomplishments into action can be challenging for some. The biggest challenge could be being truly committed to the goal. What are the action steps you will need to take in order to be truly committed to the goal?

Get up everyday and get to work no matter what the circumstances are. You are tired, do not feel good or busy working are all great excuses to not work on your goals. However, they become great excuses for you to not be committed to your goal. To reach your goal you will need to get past all the great excuses and circumstances. When you allow all the excuses and circumstances to slow you down or deter you from reaching your goals you tell yourself that you are not worth reaching the goals.

Each time you set a goal, act upon reaching the goal and accomplishing the goal you tell your subconscious that you matter. Setting and accomplishing goals reward you with greater confidence, acceptance and commitment. The value of letting other people know that you set and accomplish goals allows others to build trust and respect in you.

Setting and accomplishing goals is a great way to reward yourself and others around you. As you allow people to see you step into your life and you create success you also lead the way for them to do the same. They will want to achieve goals in their life as well.

Go out and make a bigger difference just by setting, acting on and accomplishing your goals in life!

The Power In Saying No

Why would you want to say No to people?

Why is a No powerful?

No is a way to trust yourself. Trusting your insinct on making a choice.

When you say no to someone that is a way that you honor yourself. How often do you truly honor yourself?
No does not mean that you are a bad person or someone who does not care.
No is just saying this does not work for me right now. No I can not do this for you as I can not put anything more on my schedule.
This is about you honoring your previous committments and not creating overwhelm for yourself.
When you say no, I have found that some people will actually honor you more. They will respect you for having boundries and honoring who you are.
Now don't get me wrong some people will take advantage of you if you tend to not say no often. However you are the only one to blame for not setting healthy boundaries for your self.

No can be a very powerful statement! It can show that you pay attention to your life.
A no puts power in you feeling like you have a choice and you have the power to do what supports you best.

Can you say no and still say yes? No to what is being asked and you can put in a yes for the future. Like no I can not be part of the play this month, please do ask me again in the future. If I am available I will let you know. This is a way that shows you are still open to supporting others yet is just does not work at this time. This allows you to have the control in your life and honor yourself and be there when others can use your support.

So what lessons can you take from saying no?

• Learn how to say no to people.
• Don’t be afraid, you’ve got nothing to be afraid of.
• If you think you want to say no then say it.
• People may not like to be told no, but they will respect you for standing up for you.
• Ano can mean not at this time please ask me again in the future.

Today is your day to say No! A loving, compassionate and healthy No! Practice on small things and work your way up to the bigger No's. What is the gain in saying no? It is up to you to find out!